Hopefully, by this time they’ll have let it settle in their mind a bit and will be able to ask you some appropriate questions about how your disease affects your life. Lead by example, and don’t walk around with a chip on your shoulder that you leave in plain view. You need someone who is going to be there for you ALL the time. So why not start off this date making a mental list of how you’re going to improve life?The only thing more awkward than meeting your ex on a blind date-is having someone tell you something on a first date like “I have ass cancer,” and then having them STARE at you while a single, silent tear slips down their cheek. (or guy.) People are going to follow your lead when it comes to the state of your disease. I’m not saying you have to hug your fibromyalgia lovingly in your arms every night, but you at least have to be able to get through a flare in public without openly weeping. Partners of those with chronic illnesses are probably the closest things to super heroes.My sister uses Ok Cupid so that men know she’s a 5’2 nudist with a penchant for folk songs.If men who are total assholes about nudism and folk songs see her profile proclaiming this both so boldly and so clearly: they don’t message her.The experience of acute pain is the nervous system’s natural response to possible injury.With chronic pain, however, pain signals continue abnormally.If they don’t want to go out with you after learning you have Crohn’s, Lupus, whatever–then that’s that. You have to be understanding of people when it comes to your chronic disease.Understand that their first reaction probably will be “what the fuck? People can sense your uneasiness about your disease.
In some cases of chronic pain, there was an injury, illness or infection that first caused the pain.
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