When women talk to each other about dating, it often feels as though there’s an elephant in the room.
You skirt around it, you glance shyly at it, you might even squeeze past it to get to the snack table – but you’re never, ever, ever supposed to talk about it.
Sometimes, even if you’re in a perfect relationship with a wonderful partner, all you’d want is to experience the single life and see just how green the grass is on the other side!
[Confession: I really just want to be single and date many guys again! A casual relationship is a kind of relationship where there are no clear rules or long term commitments towards the relationship.
More than 30 percent don’t even know where to begin and nearly 30 percent say they find it too stressful (think back to those sweaty palms and awkward conversations.) For more than 40 percent of respondents, other priorities are simply more important, and nearly one-quarter say it’s just too difficult to date when you’re 50-plus.
That’s true whether you’re 16 or 56, but more than 40 percent don’t believe there is anyone “out there” to date.
In the Nineties and Noughties we had an influx of American programmes which told us that a) everyone was beautiful, b) everyone was dating all the time, and c) everyone was having it off all the time.
Looming large in my mind to this day is the episode where Carrie starts dating Aidan.
With that in mind, opening up and getting to know someone does take a certain amount of patience.
Assess each new partner as an individual, and stay keenly connected with how you experience yourself while in his or her presence.
Our romantic culture generally consisted of hanging out with mates down the pub, doing some drinking, and then sort of somehow ending up with one of them and not really discussing the matter until six months in.
But with the ascent of online dating – which is reportedly now the way one in five relationships start – we have become a date-centric society, particularly in London where it seems that anyone who’s single is on Tinder.